I have witnessed several, of what I call, everyday miracles throughout my time in Al-Anon. It has happened so many times I can’t count. It has brought me much inner peace, sanity and serenity. I have witnessed too many everyday miracles, not only in the meetings but in my own life to choose not to believe anymore. I am truly grateful for these everyday miracles and my pain has lessened greatly.
To see another person’s thinking, feelings, actions and possible reactions as a problem gives that person control over me. I am the only one with the power to solve my own problems, set boundaries and say no.
A while back @911well posted the following tweet, “Don’t bring up the past of a person who is trying to improve their future.” Days later, @CreationNA posted a similar tweet, “If someone is working on themselves or changing for the better, it’s unnecessary to keep bringing up their past. People can become better.” These two Twitter posts have me thinking.
In Al-Anon, I learned there can be more than one right and this is the perfect example. My boss is usually the most even keeled person I have ever met. He seems to lose his cool about once a year. Lately though his agitation level has been elevated and has stuck around for a while. I have never seen him cranky for more than a day and it has going on a few weeks now.
In Al-Anon we have a saying to mind our own business. But I guess you could say I had an Al-Anonic relapse because I couldn’t help myself. I felt I needed prove (to myself) this person was a real slacker. And I found it.
I can be right or I can be happy. I choose happy. This person may be upset with me, but their feelings don’t have to be my feelings. I truly did my best and that is all I can ask of myself.
I often feel misunderstood. I feel like I am speaking a different language. Does this happen to you?